So I've poked the design button... and set it up so that it is more in tune with my tastes and then something along the lines of this happened.
ME: I want to put the same background I use on my Youtube page for this!! :D
Blogger: It's tooooo biiiiguh! D:
ME: D: OOKIES I CAN FIX! :D -goes to gimp to change file type-
Blogger: Uh-uh... -_- Still too big.
ME: D: I CAN FIX!! :D -Changes Resolution-
Blogger: Tooooo big.
ME: D: D: D: D: -Edits file again-
Blogger: :|
ME: :O
Blogger: Too big
ME: DAMN IT!
So out of frustration I continue to alter smaller things like font color, font style, size, alignment and I get it to a point that I kindofsortoflikebetterthanwhatwasusedindefault and saved.
I admire my hard work and leave. When I return things have resorted to the same default.
Throw in the durned towel. :P
ANYWAY
How NOT to Deal with Depressed People, From a Person Currently Depressed.
I know, you would have never noticed with my chipper writing style... I'm just that way. There was a test that I've been unable to taken and recently have been avoiding. I should have taken it when I was sixteen- I'm assuming that you can figure out what kind of test it is.
Vroom
Vroom
I don't know what happened to me, but I think I have a serious phobia of taking the test. I finally took it for the first time(I'm nineteen and have been driving since I was fifteen) and couldn't complete it due to a traffic violation. I didn't come to a "full" stop when turning right on red. The lady was very nice and told me that I was most probably going to pass it the next time I go in for the test... she didn't know how emotionally damaging it was for me. I've lost all confidence and I'm not going to talk about it to any one person that I know because they will all do the following things I'm going to write about.
I'm currently over dosing on My Little Pony, Friendship is Magic to keep myself from just dying.
And I'm starting to see ponies in the trees.....
ALRIGHTY
In no particular order...
Number one:: When the person is emotionally dying, do NOT, I repeat, DO NOT
tell them to compare their problems with someone else's. Starving children from Africa, someone you know who's getting a divorce, someone's lifelong animal companion(pet) dies, someone loosing their grandmother.... et al.
WHY?
Because this is going to be that depressed person's thought process:
I feel terrible. What kind of sick person are you? You're crying over a burnt pizza while your best friend's cousin is suffering from cancer! You are a terrible, disgusting person who doesn't deserve to have a nice pizza! WHY AREN'T YOU ENJOYING YOUR FLAWLESS LIFE?! STOP BEING DEPRESSED, YOU MONSTER!!! -continues abusing self, causing one to fall into a deeper depression-
Instead, focus on the terrible that the person you are talking with is dealing with. They're obviously having enough trouble dealing with that- why add to it?
Number two:: If the person is suffering from a depression due to a failure, DO NOT add to the list of things they did wrong!!
DEPRESSED PERSON: I can't believe I made that pie wrong! I never do anything right! D: D: D:
PERSON: Next time you should put sugar in it.
DEPRESSED PERSON: You're right! I'm so stupid.... what kind of person could forget the sugar in a pie?! ;-;
Someone who is having a "life is being a butt" moment within their existence, they've already found too many flaws about themselves. If they are literally having a melt down because of how ever many flaws they have thought of, why are are you bringing more up?!
Number three:: If you are in a public place and the depressed person looks like they're about to have a melt down and won't answer you when you ask what is wrong, wait until you leave the area to a more private location.
Your person is probably very aware of the fact that they are in an emotional distress and are bottling it up until they can get some place where they won't be seen. No one wants to cry in public. They might be struggling to contain it to the point that answering your question will result in them spilling it all out.. in front of everyone. Which would make things embarrassing and causing your person to feel more like an idiot.
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These are only a few of things that people can do that actually send that person who was trying to not be depressed into a depression cycle.
I'm not saying it's all on you to make them feel better, but by being aware that something you think might be helping them, might be too much or too soon for them to digest in a healthy way.
Some people are bipolar and maybe they just react to these situations differently than I do. But for dealing with very sensitive and self-judging type person, these three things can send a spark of dissatisfaction into a desolate confidence.
It's like dominoes, that person sets them up with security blankets mixed with areas where they are confident. When they loose one security blanket, they might end up questioning everything that makes them valuable.
A side note- if you ever have been in that downward spiral- try to catch what thought processes make you feel worse and kill it. If you tend to pull out that list of all your failures when something happens, counter it with the list of things that you did right. There is a point where you should feel bad when you do something wrong, but if it's a depression that lasts for a long period of time and only gets worse, you are probably being too hard on yourself.
It's *a lot* harder recovering from something that emotionally devastated you on your own, but it is possible. You just have to be aware of the signs that lead you down those dark paths.
I hope this helps my fellow "overly sensitive about a part of their life" type, and anyone who knows them. Depression doesn't always need a pill, it needs love and grace.
Keep me in your prayers, I'll need it. C:
See you all next time!
